Does anybody know how to deal with a cheating partner? You’ve got to confront, you know some proof, some evidence. And you just confront and you say: “Is this true?“ Are you having an affair? Do you still want to be married to me, do you want this marriage to continue, because if you want this marriage to continue, then you’ve got to stop this. Now, if he agrees, then my encouragement is that you go to counseling and marriage counseling, you make a decision and say, you know get get some outside help because this is a difficult situation now, even if you yourself go to counselling, we we’ve got a pastoral care center that you can you can just call through messenger and just get some prayer into your life, get some some of their emotional support. Go to friends that you trust, people who are there for you and you you know, that they love you. Go to them and just share your broken heart, share your pain.
Should you forgive cheating?
This is one of the worst human experiences of pain being betrayed by people that you love. I’ll tell you why because you’ve given your heart to someone meaning to say all your defenses are down and so your heart is vulnerable. So when somebody betrays that trust, it is very, very painful. Please seek help. Please do not carry the spain alone. Very, very important now if he says I’ve done wrong, I’ve made a mistake and I wanted to change then. Help him, but help him with a community with counselors, you know, because it’s gonna be a long journey. This is going to be a long journey, but what if he says the response is, you know I’ll. I I I want to continue with this philandering. I want to continue with this adultery. If that’s the response, then you say then this marriage is over. You you don’t want to bank. Because the moment you beg. You lose self respect. And even if he says, okay, stop begging, I’ll go to you and you deserve better. So do not beg. What for the sake of him hanging out there hanging around there, I really sure you can tell and I want this marriage to work. But if you don’t want this marriage any more then okay. The thing is this that’s why I said you’ve got to have those friends around you. You’ve got to have the councillors with you and you’ve gotta have god with you because at the end of the day, you don’t want your life to revolve around one person you want. You want your life to be founded on on god and god’s love that will never be broken. And and really seek god’s help at this at this time of your life follow up question.
How to deal with infidelity in a relationship?
My partner cheated on me. We’ve been together for a long time now. I trusted her. We have plans and getting married already. But she cheated on me. How can I forgive her for what she has done? There are two things that you’ve got a differentiator. One is forgiveness and forgiveness you should do. I’ll tell you why it’s not even for the sake of that person. It’s for your sake. Forgiveness, making a decision to say, lord god, please help me to forgive it will set you free. Forgiveness is setting yourself free from anger and resentment and bitterness. Sure it’s not about the feelings, your feelings wise, your your heart and your angry and all that, but but just taking those baby steps and saying, lord, god, help me to forgive take those baby steps because you you want to do this for your sake. You you don’t want resentment and bitterness to take root in your heart. It’s gonna destroy you, believe you mean no, you cry out to god and say. Lord, help me to forgive it will not happen overnight, but as you as you as you keep on praying, lord, help me to forgive help me to forgive little by little, you will be able to let go. Let go. Forgiveness is a decision not a feeling, so decide to forgive.
You don’t trust right away. It has been broken. So if that person cheated on you in the past forgiveness. You should do it. Absolutely. Trust enough to be able to continue the relationship. That’s a separate decision you have to make. Is that person worthy of that trust meaning to say, has that person sufficiently repentant and has shown evidence of. That that person has won your trust again. Trust is earned. So let that person little by little earn your trust again. And if that person has earned your trust again with the help of god, you can make a decision to continue the relationship or. With the help of god also, you can make a decision, you know what. I think it’s time to let go of any future with this relationship, but my recommendation is that you seek god because only god can be the one who can guide and lead you. Either way, either to continue the relationship or not to continue the relationship, you need god in your life. Many couples have lived successful marriages after one partner cheated. Many couples have never moved on from it. How do I decide between giving her a second chance and just ending the relationship while it’s still early at the end of the day. It’s your choice. You’ve got to look for patterns. Patterns of unfaithfulness from the very beginning. And even when you you know, let’s say you you caught that person in unfaithfulness and then that person repeatedly, you know, says, I’ll I’ll stop. I’ll stop, but you see that person falling. My answer is the same that trust is earned. So if that person is not you know because of a pattern of unfaithfulness, a pattern of cheating, you’ve seen that again and again and again and you realize I can’t trust this person, therefore you’ve got to move on as painful as this as this advice is, you’ve gotta move on, live your life for god and believe that you will live. You’ll be able to live a beautiful life for him even without this particular person in your life because there is no trust trust is the basis of all relationships, especially, you know marriage. So, at the end of the day is a choice that you’ll have to make. And I’m praying for you. I’m praying that god will be with you to make this choice.